Jibre Hordges as Jacob Hawthorne and Arielle Prepetit as Naomi Hamilton Hawthorne on Beyond the GatesImage Credit: CBS
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The results are in on Naomi’s pregnancy test. There will not be a bundle of joy coming to Beyond the Gates. In fact, joy is currently absent from the Hawthorne household due to this stalemate about having children. Jacob is trying to love their way past it, but Naomi is concerned that love won’t be enough to hold off the resentment he may harbor over not being a father.

Key Takeaways

• Naomi and Jacob are on opposite sides of a marital issue that tends to be a deal breaker
• Jacob wants to take refuge in their love, but Naomi wants to be realistic
• Naomi could wind up being the problem in their marriage, and not an impasse about parenthood

A Strained Marriage

Naomi’s (Arielle Prepetit) turmoil over the possibility of being pregnant confirmed to her that she does not want to bring a child into her marriage with Jacob (Jibre Hordges). Motherhood isn’t on the list of what will make her happy in life. Naomi’s stance puts her at odds with her husband, who clearly wants to be a father.

It’s important to be open and honest about a desire, or lack thereof, to have children well before exchanging vows. That’s so there isn’t a heartbreaking stalemate about the issue after a couple has promised their lives to each other. Unfortunately, Naomi and Jacob are dealing with a difference of opinion on parenthood that’s often a deal breaker.

While both sides have valid points, no one should have a child or children if they don’t want to be a parent. This isn’t something anyone can compromise on. You’re either going to raise a baby with someone or you are not. So, the choice then is to sacrifice one’s own desires to support the desires of one’s spouse. Naomi has made it clear she’s not going to be the one who does so, leaving Jacob to reconcile with shelving the possibility of being a parent.

He told his wife that he can make that choice, that what they have together is enough, but Naomi doesn’t believe him. She had to put a stop to their tendency to fall back on intimacy to avoid talking through a problem. Her worry over Jacob’s feelings has her in knots. However, her concern could be the very thing that causes trouble in their marriage.